How can I get rid of my ity?

You said that you are not like stereotypical gay person. You don't have to like fashion or put eye liner to be gay. There are probably many guys like you who don't talk in high pitch voice and don't have a purse but are still gay. I know it is not easy to accept because being gay is not exactly accepted by society but you can't just change your ual orientation. So just don't conform to stereotypes stay the way you are.